Romans 2:1 sums up the concept that the things that bug you about someone is probably a problem you also have.Kyra Webster
Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things.New Testament KJV, Romans 2:1
When I judge others’ shortcomings, I am judging myself. If I don’t become aware of this “judgy-ness” tendency, I blind myself to the truth of my own shortcomings. This tendency to only see what is wrong with others and not myself imprisons me and stops my progression.
IF I can notice what “bugs” me in other people then take an honest look at myself (bravely see truth) to see how that thing in them is really a mirror to the thing in myself, THEN I can take steps to seek healing of that thing and overcome my weakness.
This work (taking time to notice and ponder my tendency) can bring me to a place where my weakness can be healed. Instead of damning me, it can give me experience and it can facilitate Christ’s atoning power to spiritual cleanse my weakness. This process gives me power and converts the “weakness into strength” (Ether 12:5)
Jesus eloquently teaches this principle:
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.New Testament (KJV), Matthew 7:3-5
But we HAVE to judge to live. Judgment is analyzing something or someone; gathering information is not being judgy.
Judgy is looking for faults without trying to help a person. Judgy is me-centered, not us-centered.
Judgment is to notice all that is wrong as well as all that is right and being able to embrace both at the same time to. It includes the ability be compassionate to them and to ourselves since we have the weakness and strength that we see in others.